High Falls State Park Engagement Session - Kaitlyn + Cole

Kaitlyn’s Perspective

I wasn’t looking for him, and he wasn’t looking for me. I had spent a few days with my cousins in Warthen that June of 2010, working outside, swimming, and being adventurous. I hadn’t showered in two days (don’t judge me!) and stopped to pick up my friend Caroline (a bridesmaid) for a short Wal-Mart trip. As we turned the corner from electronics down to the home goods section, I spotted him. We made eye contact immediately. He nodded and smiled. I smiled and mouthed “Hey.” Caroline asked, “DO you know him? Oh em gee that was creepy if you don’t.” I said, “NO, I don’t know him but WHOOO he was cute!” She called me crazy (nothing I hadn’t heard before) and we went on about our business.  A few days later, I had a Facebook message in my inbox from a guy named Cole Fronebarger. I opened it and read “Hey, I saw you in Wal-Mart.” I sat for a second and giggled before responding: “Yep, I saw you too.” Ultimately he asked for my number and the texting began.  

Within a few weeks, my dad came home from work one evening and asks, “DO you know a fella name Cole Fronebarger (of course butchering the last name)?” I PANICKED! You see, Daddy is a Research Scientist, so he is a professional at finding out information when he wants to and discovering things. It turns out, Cole’s Uncle Scott (the person officiating the wedding) had called my dad about Cole transferring a membership for a local club. I decided it was time to tell them about how we had been talking and getting to know each other. Like any parents of a girl, especially an only child, they wanted to meet him. I mentioned it, and he said sure. I was nervous because I didn’t want to run him off. I was jumping to conclusions that he would think I wanted to move faster than he did. On top of that, he had a mow hawk at the time and I wasn’t sure how well that was going to go over with Randy and Ellen (ha!) My parents have always been supportive of me, encouraging me to make my own decisions, knowing they had raised me to make the right ones. On August 25, 2010 He asked me to be his girlfriend. We have since helped each other through deaths of grandparents, family issues, college applications, friend drama, scary events, tooth knockouts, and getting our first dog(s). 6 years together, in a relationship with each other and with the Lord, we have learned patience, trust, forgiveness, and unconditional love. We have shared happiness, sadness, anger, bitterness, anxiety, stress, hugs, laughter, and good times. On May 28th, 2016, he asked me to marry him. Everyone else said “about damn time!”

 

Cole’s Perspective

I had just recently graduated high school; I had no plans for college, no plans for a career, and no plans to find a girlfriend anytime soon. I said that after I graduated I would just be myself and whatever happens, happens. However, God had a different plan for me, and he was about to change my life forever. I was hanging with my cousin and best friend Dustin (My best man) and his lady friend at the time and we decided to go to Wal-Mart either for something to help us in our hunting and fishing adventures or just to walk around and kill time. We were walking in the back of the store toward the grocery section when we passed two young ladies, me being raised how I was, I nodded my head and smiled as we passed as if to say hello without breaking stride. One of these young ladies really caught my eye, but I didn’t know her and neither did my cousin so I had no way to make a connection with her other than going up to her and introducing myself, lets just say I was too shy for that. Several days later thinking that I had missed an opportunity I was scrolling through Facebook when, bam, there she was Kaitlyn Hall, on the people you may know section and I thought, I’m not missing this opportunity again, so I messaged her and said “I saw you in Wal-Mart yesterday” how cheesy and awkward could I get. But to my surprise she replied immediately and said yes you did. So we swapped numbers and it went from there. After several weeks of nonstop texting, a few short phone conversations, she told me that her parents wanted to meet me. I immediately became nervous wreck thinking, “they are not going to like me, and I have a mow hawk for crying out loud”. So we met and everything went smoothly to my surprise. After that we were inseparable, I went to her house nearly every afternoon and half the weekends for about a month until the day I decided that I wanted to take things to the next level. So on August 25th of 2010, I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she said yes. We began to spend every free moment of our lives with each other and our bond grew and grew into something that I had never experienced before, Love. I had fallen in love with this girl from Deepstep who I didn’t know six months before then, but I was completely fine with it. I was happy. As she mentioned before, the next six years after that Wednesday evening, would be filled with ups and downs, peaks and valleys, the loss of loved ones, the breakdown of friendships and births of new friendships, the milestones of our transition into adult life, and ultimately the decision to ask for her hand in marriage. As I said before, I thought I knew where the road of life was going to take me, but God had another plan and I couldn’t be happier because of it.    

We don’t believe in coincidence. The bad things that happen in life only prepare us for the joyous times. Faith is trusting in God’s plan even when you can’t see where the road is leading or don’t have the answers to all of your questions. God planned this all for us and we know in our hearts His plan is ongoing. We trust it. We can’t wait to see what He has in store for us.

 

Kaitlyn & Cole, I can't wait for your wedding! It's going to be amazing!!! xoxo!!! - Ashah

Macon Georgia Photographer - Sarah & Alex's Engagement Photos

Sarah & Alex

The Proposal

(Alex’s side)

"The year leading up to our proposal was a crazy one to say the least. The summer before my senior year I was in Daytona with Campus Outreach on the Summer Leadership Project, while Sarah was back home in Milledgeville working and taking summer classes. Those three months apart were a real test for us, but our relationship grew more than it ever had. So much so that in those months I made the decision that I intended to ask Sarah to marry me.

I remember sitting out on a hotel balcony with Austin Shadoan and talking about married life and what it was like, and if he thought I was ready for that. It was a real confidence booster when he and some of my other closest friends all agreed that me marrying Sarah would be a wonderful idea. Sarah and I had been reading through a book that summer called "The Meaning of Marriage" and having weekly FaceTime chats to discuss the chapters. It was great to see how much we agreed on and how much we grew in our understanding of what we wanted a marriage to look like, and I loved being able to share that with those guys.

When I came home at the end of the summer I was both excited and nervous to start the new school year. I was excited to finish up my last couple of semesters of school and to begin moving towards proposing to Sarah. I was nervous for those exact same reasons. I knew that proposing during the school year wouldn't be a good idea because I knew neither Sarah nor I could effectively do our school work while also trying to plan a wedding. Besides, just because I knew I wanted to marry Sarah didn't mean I was ready right then and there. I did a lot of "soul searching" that year. I spent more time in prayer, read more articles on marriage, and drank more cups of coffee while taking in advice than I ever have in my life. But when it was all said and done my mind hadn't changed, no matter how many times I feared I may be getting in over my head.

After graduation I told Sarah's parents that we should get together for lunch sometime soon. I'll never forget her dad asking "With or without Sarah?" He knew what was up. Not four days later I met both of them at a Wendy's near macon and I asked them for their blessing to marry Sarah. I've never discussed anything that important over a cheeseburger and fries before. They said yes and we all laughed and hugged and started planning our surprise.

About a week later I was picking Sarah up for our flight to Kansas City. When I got to her house, her mom slipped me what was her grandmother's wedding ring while Sarah was in another room. She had no idea. Throughout June I spent my days making ring appointments and riding around to jewelry stores to look at rings. I finally found a band I thought Sarah would love and I got the center stone from her grandmother's ring placed in it.

After a lot of planning and trying to get family together without accidentally including Sarah in one of the numerous group chats we had for the proposal weekend, she and I hit the road for Saint Simons island. This was one of the first places Sarah and I ever vacationed at and it quickly became our home away from home. When we got there we settled in at my brother's place, then headed over to The Lodge at Sea Island to have some drinks. After a bit I took Sarah across a fairway of the golf course and out by the ocean. I had her turn around and said I wanted to take a picture of her, and when she turned back around I was down on one knee.

It was the happiest moment of my life so far. I'll never forget the first words (after "Yes!") Sarah said to me as my new fiancé:

"Now we can finally talk about getting a dog!"

We are currently practicing with a beta fish."

 

(Sarah’s side)

"During my final year at Georgia College, it felt like a million of my friends were getting engaged and I had to consistently remind myself to be patient and wait on God's timing. I don't think I've ever relied on the Lord so much in any point in my life. It's hard to be patient when it seems like everyone around you is getting what you want but might not necessarily need at the time! But, after an encouraging conversation with Steph Shadoan, she helped remind me that even though Alex and I had talked about the future before and were certain our futures were coming together to stay grounded and to not "expect" every trip to be "the trip" we would get engaged. Which was hard. But, I grew to be truly content where I was.

This was super helpful when looking for a job. I got the opportunity to really look for a job where I wanted to work, rather than look for one that was just close to where Alex would be the next year... because if we're honest, we didn't really know where that would be. He helps me stay on my toes and live in the moment sometimes :) It's wonderful haha. 

By May, Alex and I had both just graduated from Georgia College (me with a Master's in Middle Grades Education and Alex with a Bachelor's in Psychology) and were both heading to the Atlanta area to continue pursuing our dreams. I had accepted a job as a teacher in Gwinnett County and his band was progressively getting bigger and success was within ear shot. 

When school got out, Alex and I took a trip to Kansas City to visit his sister-in-law's family and watch his nephew's christening. Since we started dating, we always talked about taking this trip. He would constantly rave about the BBQ, the town, and of course, Sporting KC. We got to experience all of this and more and it really felt like a turning point in our relationship. We were growing up, but most importantly, we were growing together. I wanted more and more to be with him in the future so I could support his dreams of being a musician, no matter how hard I knew it would be.

St. Simons has always been "our place". So, when we planned a trip there in June, I didn't think anything of it. I woke up on June 24th, curled my hair, and put on a summer outfit for the trip down there. When we got to the beach, we sat down at Alex's sister-in-law's parent's house waiting for Laura and Brian to get there from work so we could head to Sea Island and listen to the bag-piper and have S'mores by the golf course. I don't remember much of the drive there, but I remember walking through the Lodge and Alex and Brian going to get drinks.

We walked down to the sidewalk by the golf course and Brian mentioned going to get his camera so he could take some pictures of Jack. When he got back, Alex told Brian and Laura we were going to take pictures by the beach on the other side of the fairway. On the way there, Alex and I were talking about the golf courses that Sea Island had. I remember turning around to look for one of them and I saw Brian following us, not too closely, with his camera. I think my heart dropped. It was coming.

We got to a quaint little spot and I had flipped my hair to get it off my neck. Alex told me to turn around because he had an idea for a picture. When I turned back around, he was down on one knee. Speechless. Tears rolling down his face. Honestly, I don't know how he held his composure because there were a lot of tears like he had them built up for a while hahahaha.

When we got back to The Lodge, we were greeted by both of our parents, Alex's aunt and uncle, and a weekend stay on Sea Island. I don't think I've ever had a vacation that was truly just joy 24/7. There was no sadness, no anger, just joy. Pure joy."